June 17, 2017 11:42 PM

Remember that guy that broke your heart. That guy that once made you feel like you didn’t really matter? That guy that took advantage of you. That guy who got a real gag out of manipulating you. That guy that tried to control you. That guy that bit the hand that once fed him. That guy that you did everything for and got nothing in return. That guy that made you look at every guy after him the same. That guy that cut you so deep that no amount of stitches could heal you. That guy that your parents tried to warn you about. That guy that only cared about himself. That guy that had nothing to offer but sex. That very same guy that made you #GLOUP. That very same guy that made you adjust your crown. That very same guy that made you love yourself harder than you ever have…… LOL yeah girl, this ones for you. Some of us may still be stuck in this unhealthy situation, but there’s always a way out…. It starts with you.
Dealing with a break up is not the easiest thing to do. You first have to ask yourself “how do you know its over?” You ask yourself this because we’ve all said we’re done and never really left. We’ve all said “okay I’ve had enough”, but yet our feet don’t move. So how do you truly know that it’s over? I always tell myself maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than the person thats actually in front of you then you know its time. You have to make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. He is going to do whatever you allow him to for as long as you allow it. You have to rise up and say, “I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. Im moving on with my life.” So when you know its over then what?
Then you get rid of the problem. Whatever part of the equation that makes the solution negative you remove it. Let him know that you are more than what he says you are. You deserve better than what he’s able to give you. He’s going to be sorry that he lost you, so stop worrying. Forget the past, forget the pain and remember what an incredible woman you are. This is not easy, I know this. But as a woman you have to know when its time to start loving you. You can’t keep watering dead plants, they won’t grow. Once you get rid of the problem focus on you. Learn how to love yourself. Embrace your own company. Get use to not having someone around for a while. Have fun by yourself. He’ll then see how you’ve #GLO’dUP and come crawling back. This is the best part. I say that because nothing feels better than watching someone give up on you like you were average and then flourishing into the bold, beautiful, and mature woman that he misses so much and can’t live without. Temptation will try and make you take him back. But why go back to what once broke you after you’ve done the work to fix yourself?
Once you’ve taken time to focus on you, think about what it is that you want in a guy that will meet your standards. Do not rush this part, MAJOR KEY ALERT‼️ But when you come across different guys, never tell them what you look for in a man. Because they will become that person for about 60 days to capture your heart. So let them open up the true them as you go down your list and check things off. You also have to mold yourself into the wife that your future husband prays for at night. Learn how to be THAT woman. That Proverbs 31 woman. Once you do that you will see the change. Because you no longer allow the things that once made you sad and he won’t be able to hurt you. Because you can’t hurt a woman who seeks her happiness from God.

Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve. Respect yourself enough to know that you are worth the very best. Cheer up, sweet, beautiful girl. You are going to be in love again and it will be magnificent.

Zhaina B.

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  • UrBiggestFAN!

    God is doing a NEW Thing in the lives of His people thru YOU! Thank you for sharing your very own experiences that made you #GloUp into the AMAZING Young Woman you are today!

  • Barbara Bryant Johnsin

    Wow….very powerful!

  • Sasha

    I love it Zaee!!! Keep doing your thing ❤️

  • Patricia

    Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️ Love it! It’s been amazing watching you grow

  • C. Harmon

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! I’m 25, a st. Pete native, and a FSU Alumna and I can’t thank you enough! The break up pill was for me and I appreciate it. Keep inspiring young queen 😘👸🏾💜

  • Cie

    I love it zhaina!! Well done 💓

  • Danah

    I cannot believe you dream is finally coming true. I love you and imthis was very powerful. I think every girl goes through a rough break up, but the break up pill is what every girl needs to read. I love it ❤️ I’m behind you al the way 😘

  • Vernique M.

    Sis God is definitely working through you!! I know that this blog is gonna be an awesome one and will most definitely exceed past your expectations. Keep it up Zhaina.

  • Tierra

    Zae, if I would’ve read this two years ago I would’ve stood up that very moment and walked away. I love this so much 😩 I’m so proud of you! Keep up the excellent work❤️

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